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Do you have a team member who is under performing? Or a contractor not coming through for you? Or repeated delays with getting your website finished or your social media presence done? Or a client who is under performing and blaming you for their lack of results?
When you find yourself in situations like these, what do you do…say nothing, cross your fingers and hope for the best? Or do you face the situation with feminine strength and leadership?
When others are side-stepping responsibility, how YOU handle the challenge depends first on your willingness and savvy with “owning” your part in what’s happening.
To be clear, owning your part doesn’t mean approving of the other person’s behavior, or being a door matt or taking on the feelings of others. Quite the opposite! Owning your part is enlightening and empowering, freeing you to come from your best self, with feminine grace and ease.
Here’s why…
Most people are quick to fall into a pattern of blame. But when someone does that, they’ve immediately given up their power to an outside force (another person, the economy, circumstances, etc.) and made themselves powerless. Ick!
In reality, no one can take your power from you. The way I look at it is, “when you own it, you keep it.”
Here are 3 essential Courageous Coaching® tips for you to own your power with feminine strength, grace and ease in any business situation.
Courageous Coaching® Tip #1 – You’ll Rid Yourself Of Falling Into “Victim Land” If You Seek Solutions Instead of Leaning On Excuses
When things go wrong, resist the temptation to fall into blame, drama or rehashing the wrong done to you. This includes letting go of making excuses to yourself because excuses are a big time-waster that drain you emotionally and physically.
For example, let’s say your web designer is late on your project. You haven’t heard from them in two weeks and the last time they emailed you, it was to make excuses about why they’re running behind. To make matters worse, you’ve already paid them in full.
So, what is YOUR part to own in this?
The first time they made an excuse did you say, “okay” and let it slide? And why was payment made in full before the work was finished?
While it’s tempting to feel guilty, please don’t!
You’ll be better off taking a stand for what you want.
Here’s what you can do: Leave a message for your web designer, letting them know another delay will not work for you and you expect them to deliver on the agreed upon date, else you’ll need to take action to get your money back.
Courageous Coaching® Tip #2 – Stop Waiting For The “Perfect Moment” And Instead Look For The Gift
Waiting for the perfect moment is actually fear (ego) trying to keep you stuck. And while yes, your ego is trying to protect you from whatever it is you fear, in reality, the longer you wait to handle an uncomfortable situation, the more uncomfortable you’re going to feel.
Here’s what I do when I know I need to stand in my power, yet I’m afraid…first, I acknowledge that I am afraid.
Next, I get coaching so I can clearly see what the gift is in this situation. Once I see the gift, I feel clear, calm and at peace.
Which means I can take the final step of reaching out and taking care of the situation, without unnecessary drama or blame, without feeling victimized and without getting all realty-t.v. show about it.
Courageous Coaching® Tip #3 – Own Your Divine Feminine Power
Too often, women give away their power to others – demanding clients, flaky team members, women even often hold back from making more money so they don’t make their friends and family feel less successful.
Playing small and denying your authentic power doesn’t serve others and it sure doesn’t serve you.
If you truly want success and you want to be the most amazing version of YOU that you are meant to be, then you must step fully into your power – as a woman and as a business owner.
The path of being a success woman entrepreneurial isn’t for emotional sissies. It demands that you keep learning about yourself, that you keep facing challenges and growing your confidence. In the end, who you become will be exactly the kind of woman you’ve always wanted to be — financially AND spiritually rich!
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