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Do you have a team member who is under performing? Or a contractor not coming through for you? Or repeated delays with getting your website finished or your social media presence done? Or a client who is under performing and blaming you for their lack of results?
When you find yourself in situations like these, what do you do…say nothing, cross your fingers and hope for the best? Or do you face the situation with feminine strength and leadership?
When others are shirking responsibility, how YOU handle the challenge depends first on your willingness and savvy with being self-responsible. In other words, “owning” your part in what’s happening.
To be clear, being self-responsible doesn’t mean approving of the other person’s behavior or being a door matt or taking on the feelings of others. Quite the opposite! Self-responsibility is much more enlightening and empowering than that.
Here’s why…
Most people are quick to fall into a pattern of blame. But when someone does that, they’ve immediately given up their power to an outside force (another person, the economy, circumstances, etc.) and made themselves powerless.
In reality, no one can take your power from you. I look at it as, “when you own it, you keep it.”
Here are 3 essential ways for you to own your power with feminine strength, grace and ease in any business situation.
#1 – Find Solutions Instead of Excuses
When things go wrong, resist the temptation to fall into blame, drama or lengthy discussions This includes letting go of making excuses to yourself. Excuses are a time-waster that drain you emotionally and physically.
For example, let’s say your web designer is late on your project. You haven’t heard from them in two weeks and the last time they emailed you, it was to make excuses about why they’re running behind. To make matters worse, you’ve already paid them in full.
So, what is YOUR part to own in this?
The first time they made an excuse did you say, “okay” and let it slide? And why was payment made in full before the work was finished?
While it’s tempting to feel guilty, don’t. As an empowered woman entrepreneur you’ll be better off taking a stand for what you want.
You can leave a message for your web designer, letting them know another delay will not work for you and you expect them to deliver on the agreed upon date, else you’ll need to take action to get your money back.
#2 – Stop Waiting for the “Perfect Moment”
The concept of the perfect moment is actually a sneaky way the brain avoids responsibility because it makes you feel like you’re being “rational.” What’s really happening is the ego is trying to protect you from whatever it is you fear.
Better to handle whatever the situation is now, as long as you’re clear and calm (not angry or upset). Use your intuition as a compass to guide you into taking action now, rather than waiting for some idealized scenario that you’ve constructed in your mind.
#3 – Own Your Divine Feminine Power
If you truly want success, you must step fully into your power – as a woman and a business owner. That means being the visionary leader and creator of all that happens within your business, without exception.
Too often, women give away their power to others – demanding clients, unresourceful team members, even holding back from making more money so they don’t make their friends and family feel less successful.
Playing small and denying your innate power is simply another way of avoiding responsibility. When you own your power and let yourself shine, being responsible actually re-energizes you!
It’s time to release the childhood idea that responsibility equals having to do something undesirable. The moment you shift your mindset around this idea, you can begin to see how taking full self-responsibility gives you the confidence and strength to create success in your business and in your life!
